When someone offers you a job you need to stop telling them why you deserve it and start thinking about how to make the situation work to your advantage. When an offer is presented, for the first time in the interview process, the candidate has the power. Here is an effective protocol for receiving a job offer:

Thank the person for the offer. This is the time to appear humble. Youve spent a significant amount of time telling your counterpart how great you are and now they believe you. Let them know that you are honored and flattered that they value you.

Ask for time to think about it. Even if they offer you the most money you ever thought youd get try to let some time pass. If nothing else, it shows your future employer that you are a rational decision maker. If you join them, they will be investing in you. An impulsive person is seldom given big responsibility. Even if you just take an hour, take some time before responding.

Ask if thats the best they can do. It takes courage and tact but it works. After you have taken the time you need to think things over, simply ask your counterpart if that is the best offer they can make. On some occasions (and this has happened to me and a few people I know) they will counter-offer right away. The key to doing this is to appear nonjudgmental and unemotional. Say something like: Once again, I want to express how flattered Im am with your consideration. Before I make my final decision Id like to know if that is your best possible offer.

Once you say that shut up. Watch the reaction (if you are in person) or listen to their reaction (if on the phone) carefully. If there is silence, DO NOT SPEAK. Let the other party break the silence. If they ask why you are asking this question, simply say something like: This is a major decision and I want to be certain I have all the information. Is this your best possible offer?

If they ask you what you are looking for and you feel compelled to answer directly give them something that is a stretch but not impossible. Ask for more than you expect to get but not so much that you look like a pig. If you want more money, say you want (insert salary here 10% more).

Now comes the gut-wrenching part. Ask for more time again after they answer. Even if they counter offer. When you call back the next time you need to have a decision.

Accept or reject the offer with grace. This is the time for flattery. Complement the company. Complement the offer presenter. If you reject the offer, give them a reason. If you accept, make sure you get the information in writing before you quit.

Every situation is different so you must use your best judgment when you receive a job offer. Keep in mind that few companies, if any, offer the maximum amount of pay and benefits right of the bat. There is almost always more you can get (either in an additional benefit or more pay) if you ask.